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Hospice Family7/25/2023 I went and visited my hospice family today. Mind you, I only knew these people for a month. These are a few of the staff at Stoneleigh Hospice in Lansing. I didn't know how I'd feel going back to where I spent my last moments with Talia. I've been back a couple of times I think, but as you can see, despite on the one hand what that place represents for me, it also represents some of the most amazing people I've ever met in my life. Yes, this is their job, to care for those in their last days and it's the reality of their jobs, which right then and there should tell you how special these people are. But I really feel they go so far beyond that and they showed such love and compassion to not only Talia but me. I was there 23 hours a day for a month. That's a pretty concentrated time to spend with people. I wish I could have gotten a group photo of everyone that I spent time with there, but as I look at each individual here, in this photo, I can tell you very specific and special moments I had with each one as I can the rest not pictured, and for that, they will be my family forever. I'm sad that they couldn't see the real Talia (except for a few days as described below) . By the time we entered their residence, the tumor had spread to a part of Talia's brain that effected her personality. ( I didn't know this until about 5 minutes after checking in, then everything over the past two days made sense) Even the way that was presented to me was in such love. In a month there spending 23 hours every day, I only had 2 really bad hours which were dealt with immediately with such kindness, swiftness, and integrity. I would say, if that was all, I call that a miracle. These strangers at the time, were a group of individuals placed by God, to help guide me through what would be the most trying time of my life. Nothing can prepare you for the pain I went through. What I learned was these people were not just there for Talia, but they were there for me. I know Talia was thankful for all of them both in a short stay she had when I had to go to NYC for a few days and before the tumor had moved in her brain, and in our final month. I remember calling her from NYC and she was having so much fun. She said it was like she would imagine on a cruise ship, she had a personal chef that asked her what her favorites were, she had someone that was going to help with piano and liked sci-fi, there were Godly women who she could talk to, someone who gave massages, someone who was from AZ, that would sit with her when I was gone for an hour or two, someone who upon entering the room, would grab her hand and massage it while I was talking to the doctors, our home nurse before we entered the facility was such a blessing to Talia and Mia! LOL I could go on and on. These people are truly some of the most beautiful people I've ever met. Even today, the compassion and respect I received was beyond! They met Talia and I where we were at in life and loved us through! I'm sorry I had to meet these people and yet I'm forever grateful I did and consider them all family. Love you all so much and thank you for loving me through the hardest month of my life and showing Talia such love in her final days on this earth! May God truly bless all of you!
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Stacy
7/25/2023 12:34:41 pm
Such a wonderful tribute to all of us Max. You are such a kind and loving man. We are lucky to be able to call you family. Talia made us smile and laugh, we were lucky to be a part of her journey. God bless you Max.
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Max
7/25/2023 03:58:27 pm
Forever Grateful! Much love to you! Thank you!!
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Rebecca
7/25/2023 03:03:10 pm
What a blessing during such sadness
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Max Colley III
7/30/2023 07:44:53 pm
Amen! Thanks Rebecca!
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Susan
7/25/2023 04:06:12 pm
Oh Max, how wonderful to see your face! I was just thinking about you this past weekend. I wish I’d been there today but know I continue to hold you in my heart. ❤️
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Max Colley III
7/30/2023 07:46:02 pm
You are so kind! Thank you so much! I will stop by again in hopes of seeing some of you that I missed! Much Love!
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Sandy Piccard Billingsley
7/30/2023 03:19:32 pm
I only went there one time, when we took Talia into our care. The staff was so kind and accommodating. It looked like a beautiful place inside and out. Glad God provided you both with all you needed, when you needed it. ♥️♥️♥️
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Max Colley III
7/30/2023 07:48:08 pm
Amen! And the level of love that we received at hospice only continued in the next phase of the process with you and Dale! What a blessing you both have been to me for a long time and especially in my time of need! Love you both! Thank you for everything!
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